Most traditional approaches assume a narrow view of relationships — leaving queer clinicians doing the heavy lifting to make them fit. It’s frustrating, and your clients deserve better.

The Developmental Model, created by Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, offers a flexible, science-backed framework rooted in Attachment, Neuroscience, and Differentiation Theory — one that honors difference instead of minimizing it.

This isn’t just theory. I use the Developmental Model every single day in my practice — and in my own life — because I’ve seen firsthand how transformational it can be for queer clients navigating complex relational dynamics.

With the blessing and guidance of Ellyn and Pete, I’ve done the code-switching for you. This course brings the essential insights of the Developmental Model into the real, vibrant, and diverse ways our relationships differ from our straight counterparts — without losing depth, clarity, or impact.

Ready to learn a model that celebrates growth, honors diversity, and drives lasting change?

Start today with a free 25-minute mini-course and a ready-to-use Differentiation Brainstorming tool — and discover a model that finally fits. 

I'm here to show you how.

Hi, I'm Tom Bruett. As a relational therapist grounded in the Developmental Model, I've learned a lot about leaning into tough conversations.

As a gay man, I've also had my own less-than-affirming experiences in therapy, and heard my share of horror stories. I've put a lot of thought into what it takes to do powerful therapy with clients whose experiences may be very different from your own. So much so, that I've written a book on the subject: The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men published by JKP. 

I want to show you what it takes to earn your client's trust from the very first session.

What You'll Get When You Sign Up:

✅ Instant access to the 25-minute overview video
✅ Download the Differentiation Brainstorming Tool — a free clinical resource you can use with clients today
✅ Early access to our full Developmental Model Course Waitlist—designed exclusively for LGBTQ+ clinicians
✅ Enrollment into our email series with tools, resources, and queer-affirming interventions for relational work