In our previous discussions, we tackled the importance of how to find support to do your best work. As therapists, we are constantly learning and evolving, and sometimes, that means making mistakes. The ability to acknowledge and repair those mistakes is an essential part of ethical, effective thera...

Last time, I talked about what to do when you find yourself getting triggered in session. This is a natural part of being a therapist. And it happens for LGBTQ+ Affirmative therapists, too.

But what about when you can anticipate that something challenging is likely going to come up? 

Maybe you’re ...

Being an LGBTQ+ affirmative therapist takes intention, knowledge, and skill. But what if you get triggered in session? 

First of all, let’s acknowledge that triggers happen. We bring our whole selves to the table – including our personal history, our trauma, and our experiences of marginalization. ...

Are you dating someone but feeling like something is off? Maybe trusted friends and family have voiced concerns, or your gut is telling you that things aren't quite right. Navigating relationships can be challenging, especially in the LGBTQ+ community. Recognizing red flags early can help you avoid ...

When it comes to great sex, many people think it's all about size, positions, and performance. But true pleasure goes far beyond those surface-level concerns. As a sex therapist working with gay men and couples, I’ve seen firsthand what really makes a difference in sexual satisfaction. In this guide...

As a couple therapist specializing in gay and queer relationships, I can’t tell you how often the Five Love Languages come up in conversation during sessions. But is there any scientific proof to back up this pop-culture phenomenon? And does it actually work within the dynamics of gay and queer rela...

Reconnecting with your partner after time apart is one of the most intricate daily tasks people in intimate relationships face. These transitions—when one person comes home from work, a solo trip, or even time with friends—are small moments where conflict often arises. For queer and gay relationship...

When we talk about thriving gay and queer male relationships, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all blueprint. Relationships are deeply personal and dynamic, evolving with each partner’s growth and experiences. However, there are concepts that can help foster a strong, meaningful connection. One of the mo...

Relationships, like the tides, ebb and flow. Some days, connection feels effortless; other days, you may find yourself drifting apart. If you're wondering how to bridge that gap, you’re in the right place. Reconnection is an essential practice for fostering lasting love and intimacy. Let’s dive into...

The exploration stage in a queer relationship can be one of the most dynamic, fulfilling, and sometimes challenging phases of development. As someone who works closely with gay and queer men to enhance their relationships, I’m excited to share insights and actionable steps that can guide you through...

Today, I want to delve into the agreement stage of gay and queer relationship development. This stage is critical for creating satisfying and fulfilling partnerships, and I’ll share six actionable steps you can take to navigate this stage successfully.

Let’s begin by understanding the agreement sta...

When we talk about queer relationships, we’re often unpacking uncharted territory. Unlike heteronormative relationships, queer partnerships frequently lack societal templates or family support systems to guide their development. This can make navigating the natural stages of relationship growth part...